What are my human boundaries?

April 19, 2008

Having a firm moral compass and knowing what you like is key to understanding your identity. I’m going to continually update the answers to these questions so I can learn more about who I am at my core.

Credit Paul my NLP isntructor for these ideas.

What you like?

I like to go out.
I like to have fun with people.
I like to travel the world.
I like watching mma.
I like improving myself.
I like being appreciate.
I like accomplishing tasks.
I like eating.
I like walking around a city.
I like music and the arts.
I like trying new things.
I like being sexual.
I like being physical.
like people of a sunny disposition.

What you don’t like?

I don’t like rain.
I don’t like being too hot.
I don’t like feeling unworthy.
I don’t like a lack of variety.
I don’t like negative people.
I don’t like people disrespecting my time.

How should people behave to you? <– Do you have a FIRM MORAL COMPASS

“It is not acceptable for me to bring people down or for people to bring me down”
“lying is not acceptable even small ones, radical honestly is key”
“people should never physically escalate with me and I should never physically escalate with other”
“saying aggressive, judgemental, rascist, bigoted notions should not be said via my mouth or thoughts about others and nor should they think or say similar about me”
“disrespecting my loved ones or friends is totally unacceptable”
“people should smile and be kind and interested in me as I should be with them”

What are your strengths?

I am a caring man.

What are your weaknesses?

I am not thoughtful enough about my family.
I am messy.

What are you good at?

I am good at trying new things.
I am good at speaking to people.
I am good at my job
I am good in the gym

What are you bad at?

I would like to be better at public speaking.
I would like to be better at managing my money.

Where do you want to be in 1 year? Are you drifting?


Sponsoring a Child in Albania – Charity work

April 15, 2008

Miki said something very moving this weekend. The universe has a funny way of paying you back. If you give you get 10 times back. I truly agree with this…

I’ve flirting with the idea of sponsoring a child in a less economically developed country. I’ve been too lazy to sign up, or cheap. It says something about you if you think £18 a month is too much money for an impoverished child. I would usually drink £18 of alchohol in a night out.

This is not only helping a worthy child it is another reason for me to stop the alchohol. I’ve pretty much moved my alchohol intake down to one beer a night. Which is a huge saving, it’ll be down to much less over the coming months and i’m looking forward to that.

I want to do positive things with my money. Not just self-improvement but world-improvement. I want to do my little bit in any way I can.

Have a good one!


Mozzering – "DANCE MOZ DANCE"

April 15, 2008

Mozzering is about to be a world wide phenomenon. It is soon to be tested in Stockholm, Sweden and then revealed to the world.


Impro and Charism

April 15, 2008

This weekend I also heard a guy called Markus speak. He is a coach of charisma and I was very impressed with what he had to say. Most of his philosophies are taken from “impro” which is something i’ve flirted with previously.

I’m now going to be getting into it seriously and have ordered the book above. I’ll be going through that book every day as a bible and doing exercises.


NLP – Life Coaching

April 15, 2008

I had a wonderful weekend listening to a guy called Paul talk about NLP. I think NLP could be really helpful in me organising my life and helping me succeed. I’m already very motivated to experience things and be consistent at practicisng them.

So I think utilising NLP and understanding myself a bit more could be really helpful.

I’m already reading “Intoducing NLP” to gain a good understanding of the topic matter and I’ve contacted Paul and he’s going to do a couple of sessions with me.

So I now have my very own NLP instructor.


Cycling your learning – Gym

March 27, 2008

Hey guys,

In January and February I trained like a trouper. I lifted weights 4-5 times a week. In March I became disenchanted and only went a max of 2 times a week.

I’ve realised that cycling your training or learning is important. You can’t focus on too many things or you just get bogged down.

So i’ve decided with the gym i’m going to do 2 months hard and 1 month recover. I’ver just started the last week of the recover month and i’m going to go 4-5 times to train my body for the hard period.

I’ll go back on my normal supps for the 2 months. After 2 weeks of hard I may do a creatine cycle for 6 weeks to give me a massive bump!


Guitar learning

March 27, 2008

This month I bought an acoustic guitar and i’ve started lessons with a professional guitarist. I’ve had 2 so far and my 3rd is on the weekend. I’m going to stay with the teaching and practice as hard as I can, I really want to play well a year from now. I know it will take 5 years to master, but i’ll put the effort in.


Robs Dream Lists

March 27, 2008

This is going to be my John Goddard Dream List. I’m going to keep adding to this.

1. Fly in a Helicopter
2. Swim with dolphins
3. Play Guitar and Piano well
4. Learn to sing well enough to my Guitar Playing
5. Take a digital photography course
6. Travel around South America for 1 month
7. Live abroad for 1 year
8. Learn how to speak Spanish
9. Drive a Ferrari


Managing State…. Finn and Marr

March 27, 2008

I’ve noticed recently that things other than alchohol can push my state high into full Nimbus.

Two of those things are a)dancing, gettting physical b)Good music that I love.

This songs constantly raises my state, so I thought I would share it. I’ve been listening to it alot so maybe in the future it will jog my memory.


Consciousness.. Where are you at?

March 27, 2008

Where are you at?

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/04/levels-of-consciousness/

In the book Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, there’s a hierarchy of levels of human consciousness. It’s an interesting paradigm. If you read the book, it’s also fairly easy to figure out where you fall on this hierarchy based on your current life situation.

From low to high, the levels of consciousness are: shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, pride, courage, neutrality, willingness, acceptance, reason, love, joy, peace, enlightenment.

While we can pop in and out of different levels at various times, usually there’s a predominant “normal” state for us. If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’re at least at the level of courage because if you were at a lower level, you’d likely have no conscious interest in personal growth.

I’ll go over these levels in order, mostly focusing on the ones between courage and reason, since that’s the range where you’re most likely to land. The labels are Hawkins’. The descriptions of each level are based on Hawkins’ descriptions but blended with my own thoughts. Hawkins defines this as a logarithmic scale, so there are far fewer people at the higher levels than at the lower ones. An increase from one level to another will result in enormous change in your life.

Shame - Just a step above death. You’re probably contemplating suicide at this level. Either that or you’re a serial killer. Think of this as self-directed hatred.

Guilt - A step above shame, but you still may be having thoughts of suicide. You think of yourself as a sinner, unable to forgive yourself for past transgressions.

Apathy - Feeling hopeless or victimized. The state of learned helplessness. Many homeless people are stuck here.

Grief - A state of perpetual sadness and loss. You might drop down here after losing a loved one. Depression. Still higher than apathy, since you’re beginning to escape the numbness.

Fear - Seeing the world as dangerous and unsafe. Paranoia. Usually you’ll need help to rise above this level, or you’ll remain trapped for a long time, such as in an abusive relationship.

Desire - Not to be confused with setting and achieving goals, this is the level of addiction, craving, and lust — for money, approval, power, fame, etc. Consumerism. Materialism. This is the level of smoking and drinking and doing drugs.

Anger - the level of frustration, often from not having your desires met at the lower level. This level can spur you to action at higher levels, or it can keep you stuck in hatred. In an abusive relationship, you’ll often see an anger person coupled with a fear person.

Pride - The first level where you start to feel good, but it’s a false feeling. It’s dependent on external circumstances (money, prestige, etc), so it’s vulnerable. Pride can lead to nationalism, racism, and religious wars. Think Nazis. A state of irrational denial and defensiveness. Religious fundamentalism is also stuck at this level. You become so closely enmeshed in your beliefs that you see an attack on your beliefs as an attack on you.

Courage - The first level of true strength. I’ve made a previous post about this level: Courage is the Gateway. This is where you start to see life as challenging and exciting instead of overwhelming. You begin to have an inkling of interest in personal growth, although at this level you’ll probably call it something else like skill-building, career advancement, education, etc. You start to see your future as an improvement upon your past, rather than a continuation of the same.

Neutrality - This level is epitomized by the phrase, “live and let live.” It’s flexible, relaxed, and unattached. Whatever happens, you roll with the punches. You don’t have anything to prove. You feel safe and get along well with other people. A lot of self-employed people are at this level. A very comfortable place. The level of complacency and laziness. You’re taking care of your needs, but you don’t push yourself too hard.

Willingness - Now that you’re basically safe and comfortable, you start using your energy more effectively. Just getting by isn’t good enough anymore. You begin caring about doing a good job — perhaps even your best. You think about time management and productivity and getting organized, things that weren’t so important to you at the level of neutrality. Think of this level as the development of willpower and self-discipline. These people are the “troopers” of society; they get things done well and don’t complain much. If you’re in school, then you’re a really good student; you take your studies seriously and put in the time to do a good job. This is the point where your consciousness becomes more organized and disciplined.

Acceptance - Now a powerful shift happens, and you awaken to the possibilities of living proactively. At the level of willingness you’ve become competent, and now you want to put your abilities to good use. This is the level of setting and achieving goals. I don’t like the label “acceptance” that Hawkins uses here, but it basically means that you begin accepting responsibility for your role in the world. If something isn’t right about your life (your career, your health, your relationship), you define your desired outcome and change it. You start to see the big picture of your life more clearly. This level drives many people to switch careers, start a new business, or change their diets.

Reason - At this level you transcend the emotional aspects of the lower levels and begin to think clearly and rationally. Hawkins defines this as the level of medicine and science. The way I see it, when you reach this level, you become capable of using your reasoning abilities to their fullest extent. You now have the discipline and the proactivity to fully exploit your natural abilities. You’ve reached the point where you say, “Wow. I can do all this stuff, and I know I must put it to good use. So what’s the best use of my talents?” You take a look around the world and start making meaningful contributions. At the very high end, this is the level of Einstein and Freud. It’s probably obvious that most people never reach this level in their entire lives.

Love - I don’t like Hawkins’ label “love” here because this isn’t the emotion of love. It’s unconditional love, a permanent understanding of your connectedness with all that exists. Think compassion. At the level of reason, you live in service to your head. But that eventually becomes a dead end where you fall into the trap of over-intellectualizing. You see that you need a bigger context than just thinking for its own sake. At the level of love, you now place your head and all your other talents and abilities in service to your heart (not your emotions, but your greater sense of right and wrong — your conscience). I see this as the level of awakening to your true purpose. Your motives at this level are pure and uncorrupted by the desires of the ego. This is the level of lifetime service to humanity. Think Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Dr. Albert Schweitzer. At this level you also begin to be guided by a force greater than yourself. It’s a feeling of letting go. Your intuition becomes extremely strong. Hawkins claims this level is reached only by 1 in 250 people during their entire lifetimes.

Joy - A state of pervasive, unshakable happiness. Eckhart Tolle describes this state in The Power of Now. The level of saints and advanced spiritual teachers. Just being around people at this level makes you feel incredible. At this level life is fully guided by synchronicity and intuition. There’s no more need to set goals and make detailed plans — the expansion of your consciousness allows you to operate at a much higher level. A near-death experience can temporarily bump you to this level.

Peace - Total transcendence. Hawkins claims this level is reached only by one person in 10 million.

Enlightenment - The highest level of human consciousness, where humanity blends with divinity. Extremely rare. The level of Krishna, Buddha, and Jesus. Even just thinking about people at this level can raise your consciousness.

I think you’ll find this model worthy of reflection. Not only people but also objects, events, and whole societies can be ranked at these levels. Within your own life, you’ll see that some parts of your life are at different levels than others, but you should be able to identify your current overall level. You might be at the level of neutrality overall but still be addicted to smoking (level of desire). The lower levels you find within yourself will serve as a drag that holds the rest of you back. But you’ll also find higher levels in your life. You may be at the level of acceptance and read a book at the level of reason and feel really inspired. Think about the strongest influences in your life right now. Which ones raise your consciousness? Which ones lower it?

One thing I like about these levels of consciousness is that I can trace back over my own life and see how I’ve been moving through them. I remember being stuck at the level of guilt for a long time – as a child I was indoctrinated into a belief system where I was a helpless sinner, being judged according to the standards of someone at the level of love or higher. From there I graduated to the state of apathy, feeling numb to the whole thing. By high school I had reached the level of pride — I was a straight-A student, captain of the Academic Decathlon team, showered with accolades and awards, but I became dependent on them. I hit the level of Courage in my late teens, but the courage was very unfocused, and I overdid it and got myself into all sorts of trouble. I then spent about a year in neutrality and moved through willingness and acceptance during my 20s with a lot of conscious effort. At present I’m at the level of reason and getting closer and closer to completing the leap to love. I experience the state of love more and more often, and it’s guiding many of my decisions already, but it hasn’t yet stuck as my natural state. I’ve also experienced the state of joy for days at a time, but never with any permanence yet. That state is a pervasive feeling of natural euphoria, as if I’m exploding on the inside with positive energy. It literally forces me to smile. I’ve been in that state for most of this morning, probably because I haven’t eaten anything yet today (I find it easier to hit that state of consciousness when I eat lightly or not at all).

We’ll naturally fluctuate between multiple states throughout the course of any given week, so you’ll probably see a range of 3-4 levels where you spend most of your time. One way to figure out your “natural” state is to think about how you perform under pressure. If you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice because that’s what’s inside. What comes out of you when you get squeezed by external events? Do you become paranoid and shut down (fear)? Do you start yelling at people (anger)? Do you become defensive (pride)? What happens to me under pressure is that I become hyper-analytical, but recently I just had a pressure situation where I handled it mostly by intuition, which was a big change for me. This tells me I’m getting close to the unconditional love state because in that state, intuition can be effectively accessed even under pressure.

Everything in your environment will have an effect on your level of consciousness. TV. Movies. Books. Web sites. People. Places. Objects. Food. If you’re at the level of reason, watching TV news (which is predominantly at the levels of fear and desire) will temporarily lower your consciousness. If you’re at the level of guilt, TV news will actually raise it up.

Progressing from one level to the next requires an enormous amount of energy. I wrote about this previously when discussing quantum leaps. Without conscious effort or the help of others, you’ll likely just stay at your current level until some outside force comes into your life.

Notice the natural progression of levels, and consider what happens when you try to short-cut the process. If you try to reach the level of reason before mastering self-discipline (willingness) and goal-setting (acceptance), you’ll be too disorganized and unfocused to use your mind to its full extent. If you try to push yourself to the level of love before you’ve mastered reason, you’ll suffer from gullibility and may end up in a cult.

Going up even one level can be extremely hard; most people don’t do so in their entire lives. A change in just one level can radically alter everything in your life. This is why people below the level of courage aren’t likely to progress without external help. Courage is required to work on this consciously; it comes down to repeatedly betting your whole reality for the chance to become more conscious and aware. But whenever you reach that next level, you realize clearly that it was a good bet. For example, when you hit the level of courage, all your past fears and false pride seem silly to you now. When you reach the level of acceptance (setting and achieving goals), you look back on the level of willingness and see you were like a mouse running on a treadmill — you were a good runner, but you didn’t pick a direction.

I think the most important work we can do as human beings is to raise our individual level of consciousness. When we do this, we spread higher levels of consciousness to everyone around us. Imagine what an incredible world this would be if we could at least get everyone to the level of acceptance. According to Hawkins 85% of the people on earth live below the level of courage.

When you temporarily experience the higher levels, you can see where you must go next. You have one of those moments of clarity where you understand that things have to change. But when you sink into the lower levels, that memory becomes clouded.

We have to keep consciously taking ourselves back to the sources that can help us complete the next leap. Each step requires different solutions. I recall when making the shift from neutrality to willingness, I listened to time management tapes almost every day. I immersed myself in sources created by people at the level of willingness until I eventually shifted. But a book on time management will be of little use to someone who’s at the level of pride; they’ll reject the very notion with a lot of defensiveness. And time management is meaningless to someone at the level of peace. But you can’t hit the higher levels if you haven’t mastered the basics first. Jesus was a carpenter. Gandhi was a lawyer. Buddha was a prince. We all have to start somewhere.

Look at this hierarchy with an open mind and see if it leads you to new insights that may help you take the next leap in your own life. No levels are any more right or wrong than others. Try not to get your ego wrapped up in the idea of being at any particular level, unless you’re currently at the level of pride of course.


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